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I would really appreciate it if people stopped making jokes about my or Alyssa's expected role in our relationship based on our gender. Neither of us is the boss of the other, neither of our feelings matter more than the other's, neither of us makes decisions for the other, neither of us just gives in to the other in disagreements, and neither of us is more or less competent at doing things adults are generally able to do (remember important items/information, manage finances, plan for events, etc.). I understand that these jokes are not made in bad faith and are meant to be lighthearted, but nevertheless they upset me and I would appreciate it if people would respect that (much as I try to respect my loved ones' feelings about things I might say or do).
Edit: I thought I should say, based on some comments I've received: This isn't directed at anyone in particular, and I don't want people to feel like they have to walk around on eggshells or anything. I know that these jokes come naturally and it might not be exactly clear what kinds of things I'm talking about (I'm refraining from posting specific examples because I don't want to call anyone out or anything). I just want people to be aware that this is an issue for me so that if I ask them in the future not to make a certain joke again they'll understand where I'm coming from.